Dating is hard. Dating as a single mother is nearly impossible. It came as no surprise that others began to notice my lack of social mingling with members of the opposite sex. Warning: It is extremely dangerous for friends to notice your lack of dating. Why? The infamous “hook up” or blind date that everyone fears is inevitable.
As a single lady rapidly approaching “middle age,” it can be assumed that I am open to dating. With that being said, do I appear desperate? My recent “date” (the results of a “chance” meeting at a mutual friends dinner) was with a gentleman that seemed nice, respectful and possessed all of those other qualities I’ve taught myself to look for after I swore off bad boys forever. As a bonus, he appeared family oriented. He had full custody of his son who is two years older than my daughter. Score!
The “date” ran pretty smoothly: decent conversation, no fuss over the bill, and embarrassing moments were avoided. We made plans to meet the following weekend. Then, without warning, he turned…well, how do I put this nicely…I’m thinking, one moment…he became a complete pest.
I began receiving multiple text messages and phone calls throughout my workday. At times when I couldn’t respond, he proceeded to text and ask if I was ok since I wasn’t responding. I immediately began to withdraw. The more I withdrew, the more he seemed to text and call. Did I mention I’ve only known him about a week and a half and no, we have not engaged in any adult activities.
Since having my daughter and developing a mild case of “OMG I’m going to die single” anxiety, I’ve been more open to dating men I wouldn’t normally date. I’ve forced myself to entertain men I have absolutely no interest in for fear of missing out on a “good thing.” Nevertheless, I am not a masochist and I have no plans to mirror my life after 50 Shades of Gray. The result-he was cut.
I spoke to our mutual friend about my experience and she explained that he was excited to have finally met a “quality woman” and that is why he had appeared so eager. She requested that I respond to him and tell him that he was “coming on too strong” and to relax. I’ve yet to make a move.
What’s a girl to do?