The Double Standard


I am a single mother and I want to say Happy Daddy’s Day to all the great men out there taking care of their children and possibly someone else’s.  Now that that is out of the way, let me say this: To all of my single, bitter, resentful mother’s – it is not your place to denounce this day or make your PSA’s calling out the deadbeat you selected to procreate with. 

Spare us the paragraph posts about your pitiful plite and how you are wishing yourself and all the other bitter, resentful single moms a happy father’s day.  Do some dads fall short, yes.  On the other hand, aren’t there some moms that have fallen short as well?  I mean let’s be honest, I’ve encountered PLENTY of unfit single mother’s. So ladies, the next time you feel the urge to bash the next man, pick up a mirror and take a good look at the person who needs to be checked.

-We love you dad and don’t let anyone steal your joy today!


1 Billi Owed in Child Support Payments and Taxpayers are Picking Up the Tab

My stance on child support is equal to my stance on abortion and gay marriage: to each his/her own. While I do feel like there are pros and cons to both sides of the coin, I think the decision to file is best made on a case by case basis. I do not condone parents who use their children as paychecks, nor do I condone non-custodial parents who flee at the first sign of a child care, doctor or dentist note.

Children cost money.  In fact, I strongly concur that God probably was on to something when he recommended a child should be the result of marriage.  Nevertheless, children are still born out of wedlock; furthermore, marriage doesn’t guarantee that bills will be paid and as a result the child will have a better quality of life.

Back to the matter at hand.  To The Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement, you mean to tell me that there is over 1 billion in bad debt incurred from back payments owed to custodial parents? DANG!! That’s a lot diapers, child care hours, dentist visits, college tuition and more.  I’ve seen coworkers checks garnished and you can look in your local paper and view many people arrested for failure to pay child support.  How much of that is chipping away at this debt?

Is there a better way to collect this debt? Could the child support payments be too high? Is visitation included/required in these payments?  Is this overwhelming debt a form of rebellion from those being exploited? If I am a single mother, why are my tax dollars being used to pay for someone else’s child support? I should be exempt from the reimbursement clause, right? These are just a few questions I have.

Feel free to respond to my questions and concerns in the comments section of this post.  I have a feeling others will want to know if they’re exempt as well.


Concerned tax-paying, non-child support receiving, single mother living slightly above the poverty line. 

read CNNs article here: