What Have You Done For “Trayvon” Lately?

While the world is all a buzz about the Zimmerman verdict, let me pose this question: What do you do daily to affect and effect positive change? It is tragic that a child was murdered. However, laws are in place for this very reason. How many people can say that they vote in mid-term elections? Attend school board meetings? Write their state representatives about issues in their community? It’s unfortunate that it’s not until it’s too late that most people pay attention.

The truth is most of us, myself included, go day-to-day consumed with self. If it doesn’t impeded on our daily comforts then we turn a blind eye to many signs of injustice and inequality. More importantly, minority cultures lean on others to do their bidding for them. When was the last time you supported someone in your community starting a neighborhood watch? Maybe that goes against the NO SNITCHING “law”. How about, when was the last time you decided to educate your own child and not rely on a failing public school system to ensure their literacy was on or above grade level? I do not believe there is a law against teaching your child at home first and using the school as reinforcement, especially in cases where so many public schools are not making adequate yearly progress.

The thing about change is that it’s usually a slow and grueling process that most people DO NOT have the moral capacity or discipline for. It’s always convenient to hop on the band wagon and say, “Well, I did my part, I voted for Obama!” “I changed my profile pic to black during the Trayvon Martin trial and hashtagged #justiceforTrayvon.” “I wrote an open letter to my Facebook friends that opened a discussion about race relations in America.” How ignorant we are as a society, how lazy, how disappointing.

If your heart is heavy because of the outcome of the Trayvon Martin case, let it be because somewhere along the way you realized that you lost sight of what it means to do the right thing, and I’m not talking Spike Lee. Please, if you know in your heart that you’ve done little to nothing to make your community a better place, if you can’t name your district representative, town or city mayor, school district superintendent and district attorney, step away from the mic. There will be a million more Trayvon’s and Zimmerman’s if the only thing we’re willing to do is talk about it on social media and continue the destruction of our own communities.


Can I Instagram that heaux?

I always struggle with how much to reveal about my life on social media.  As a mom, I feel like I have a social responsibility to be appropriate at all (photographed) moments.  On the other hand, as a fun, single lady I’m always tempted to show people what I’m really up to*inset evil laugh*.  I confess, as a viewer I am prone to judge.  I judge moms who post entirely too many pictures of their kid(s).  Yes I said it!  I don’t need to see your child daily.  Get over it!  On the flip side, I judge moms that are turning up nightly.  Pause-where is your child?  Then I don’t want to Beyoncé it and post shadows or props eluding to the fact that there’s a mini me floating around somewhere; I mean I’m just not that famous or important to the masses.

So, in a digital world, were social profiles determine your marketability, how should I brand my “mom” self? What message am I trying to convey?  Which side is my “best side” (as I will always want to photograph my selfies from that angle)?  I can’t be the only person with this dilemma, can I?  I want my Vines to be witty and fun, my Instagrams to be artsy yet relatable and my Facebook/Twitter rants to evoke an uproar of unsolicited feedback.

I think the real issue here is that I may be overthinking it.  Even though I judge, don’t judge me.  Maybe I just need to have fun, isn’t that the founding rule of social media anyway? 

It’s not illegal if she/he is 18…right?

Is it me or have we seen an influx in cases involving student/teacher relations?  As a parent I’m already questioning the fate of America’s public school system, I’ve begun to adapt to the idea that when my child is of social media age “cyber bullying” could be a problem for us, and by the time she reaches high school she could very well be carrying on a virtual affair with her teacher’s hologram! Nevertheless, today I’m torn about this situation.

On one hand it’s sad and unfortunate that this woman, her husband, and her children will have to endure such scrutiny on account of her unprofessional and sloppily executed fantasy fun. Haven’t we all learned that sexting and video recordings cannot be denied?  On the other hand, all parties involved were of age and agreed to engage in the said acts.  Does this make it right? Yes, I mean no, kinda?

Thoughts anyone?

Social Media: Friend or Foe?


When I think of all of the social platforms available to express one’s self on or connect with like minds, at first glance the social allure seems quite tempting.  Whether it’s the little orange box lighting up at the bottom of your screen or the red box in the corner alerting you of mentions and tags, I must admit that the market of social media is almost impossible to resist and in severe cases, down right addictive. However, upon closer examination, I’m left to ponder, is social media all its cracked up to be and if so are these sites friend or foe?

Like any new relationship, the first three months of joining a new social site or following a new blog is pure bliss.  Every five minutes you’re checking your phone to see if you’ve received more of the witty updates about current events that drew you to the site or blogger in the first place, you get a direct feed for Fashion Week behind the scenes footage (you’re there in spirit), you reconnect with lost friends and family and you get to see all the fun times old classmates are having getting married, having children or dining with celebrities.  That’s all fine and dandy the first three months.  After all, this was the reason you joined right?

Then reality sets in; that awkward moment (that you didn’t know was coming) when you see the same types of posts you’ve always seen yet you find yourself annoyed and ready to fire back—“SYPH (shut your pie hole) PLEASE!  I don’t care that you’re extremely happy, I don’t care about your first hand account of liberal or conservative reporting journalism (btw, what school did you attend again?), and sorry Mercedes Benz but I will never be able to afford (or feel comfortable spending) 10k+ on a dress that could only be worn once if at all (as I am currently on a diet and I don’t know that I’ll ever fit sample sizes).”

Yep, just like that relationship that seemed like a match made, you find out that the same habits that once intrigued you are now annoying and dreadfully intolerable *sigh*.  So like the relationship you thought you wanted and realized it’s not something you needed, you begin to politely withdraw.  You stop responding to DMs, you post less and less and you start seeking newer, fresher sites that exercise tact and have settings that filter the unwanted posts, spam, and soliciting *insert Pinterest here*.  Let the cycle begin again.

All things considered, is social media really my friend or was it designed to keep me in a cruel cycle of seeking the unattainable: a simple place to see updates on things that I’m interested in, the news I need to know (A list celebrities covered only), and the exercise tips that I can do without much effort-for now we’ll leave friends/followers out of this. To the new social networking site and expert blogger, please state your business: friend or foe?